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The messages just keep coming, so I've started replying to them by prefacing them with I may not answer you for a month, more for my own piece of mind than for theirs--I hate leaving people hanging. I'm so fixated on the messages lol. Everyone on Facebook seemed to have forgotten that I existed until about a month or so ago, and now I've had a handful of people that hadn't said a word to me in months (or years) suddenly strike up a conversation. I just don't understand why now, and why all at once! It's not bad, just strange.

So aside from my ongoing discombobulation about these messages piling up, I've had a pretty productive week. I finally got that new FS chapter posted (it turned out to be slightly shorter than a previous chapter, so I didn't beat my record, but I was close), and I worked out most of the rest of the plot for my HP Drizzle fic... I'm now about 1/3 of the way through writing it (though the way I ramble, that may change). I started my SSHG Smut Fest submission as well, but since that one doesn't require beta-reading, and will run a little shorter, I'm going to work on that one afterwards, or at least when the Drizzle fic is almost done.

I did go out this weekend to get started on a scavenger hunt of sorts (you complete it at your own pace) that a group of friends signed up for--it was pretty hot out yesterday, and we got a little lost on one of the clues, so we didn't get far, but it made for a fun afternoon. We'll end up planning another day to continue sometime this month or the next. When we couldn't take the heat anymore, we went to a café to relax and cool off, and then some of us continued on to a restaurant for a late supper. The service at the restaurant was neither good nor bad... it was weird. It was confusing, almost. It wasn't really that busy (at one point, we were basically the only people there other than a few at the bar) but the service seemed very slow, and there were mix-ups. One friend ordered a certain beer and after a long wait, she was offered a completely different (but equivalent one that they weren't selling fast enough) even though they had the one she wanted in stock -- they didn't bother bringing the one she ordered, just the one they wanted her to drink instead, so she would have just felt fussy to say "no, I want what I ordered" because that would mean she'd have to wait even longer, and make them go back and change it. She enjoyed it, but I could tell that she had wanted the one she had originally ordered, and she gave in not to make a fuss. I didn't much like that. It would have been fine if they'd brought both bottles of beer at once and she'd chosen the 'new' one. Then, I ordered an appetizer, because I didn't want a large, heavy entrée, and they brought me... an entrée? Like? What? The thing I ordered didn't even sound remotely like what they brought me? I have no idea why they brought me that? Wtf? Even weirder, that was the only entrée on the menu that actually appealed to me. Again, to not feel like an picky asshole customer, I just accepted it and didn't complain, but it was very weird. At one point, one server said he'd bring us water, and then the other brought it instead... but then the first came over and saw the filled glasses and was like "wtf?". Really bad communication in that restaurant, I guess, and maybe understaffed. The servers also left a couple times without waiting for all of us to give our orders. The thing that caused us all to burst out laughing, though?

At the end of the meal, after the first of the four of us had paid, the card reader suddenly died and the server had to go get another one. What timing. It kind of summed up the whole experience lol.

In other fandom news... The 13th Doctor has been announced, and I am very much looking forward to seeing the next Doctor in action! I'm also looking forward to all the saltiness dying down. I'm seeing a lot of discussion on my Facebook right now about people going "oh IT'S JUST TO SATISFY THESE SJWs" and so on and so forth, and an upsurge of Bill-bashing (I'M NOT HOMOPHOBIC BUT). It's tiring to look at, so I'm not going to bother to dive in and try to talk sense into people essentially throwing temper-tantrums because an alien character that can regenerate into whatever form it likes isn't going to take a human male one for once. Again, as ever, Dudley says it best:

36? BUT LAST YEAR--LAST YEAR, I HAD 37!!!!!

Okay, fine, I will add in my two cents. One person was complaining that Bill's character was 'all about her being a lesbian'. Yes. Because she's a lesbian. And people in real life and on-screen, tend to just assume someone is straight unless told otherwise. Which is why it's important to break that assumption. And the only way to do that is by making characters that very clearly announce these things. Because even though straight is 'default' right now, it won't always be. It is something I believe will change--that one day, announcing even straightness may be normal. The assumptions won't be the same. But for now, it is important that queer characters get to embrace their queerness and announce it--so that people who are bothered by queerness can't just pretend that it's not there and not face their own discomfort.

In a similar vein, those that are screaming SJW about the Doctor regenerating as a female are screaming because the default for them is male. They don't want to watch female main characters--they're bothered by female-led superhero movies as well. To them, female-led movies and shows are 'chick flick' material, a female character automatically dumbing things down. Realistically, the Doctor being played by a female actor shouldn't actually be too different, but any tiny mention of femaleness is going to be magnified by these tantrum-throwers because maleness is 'default' and 'assumed', and anything female is jarring and unneeded and pandering.

Boys are brought up to scorn 'girly' things, and girls are brought up to enjoy 'girly' things (while being told they're lesser) and to like 'normal' stuff ('normal' stuff being anything that is not girly). So... we need to keep destroying that shitty dichotomy because in it, everyone loses.

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